Some time ago, the State of Providence, RI had a very colorful, dearly loved mayor. Not only was he powerful politically, he also had an amazing talent to keep his followers sitting on the edge of their chairs (or couches) reading the latest stories about his political successes and most of all his colorful personal escapades. There is no greater joy for the citizens of the smallest state in the USA to gain national attention so frequently. Unfortunately, as most good things, the mayor’s reign came to an end after an ugly episode with his wife’s lover – or was it politically fuzzy? Who am I to know? (I don’t think I am being unkind writing this, because I heard this morning that he wrote his memoir to inform everybody in the State just what really happened. And, from the sounds of it, he owns quite a bit). A “must read” for sure. In any case the Mayor had to move from his exquisite home on the East Side to a less desirable location – ugh – even ugly – a penitentiary, for five long years. Oh, reading the newspaper became so boring!

However, don’t be concerned, RI is never dull. The once upon time mayor returned to little Rhody some time ago, albeit minus his famous toupee. He is now an astute and provocative news commentator – and is still reviled by some, revered by many. I do know one thing. If Buddy would run for office again, he’d get in with an overwhelming majority of voters! How about it Buddy?

NOW, what about that?

Good question. What stands out for me as a Gestalt Coach and Therapist is how exquisitely Buddy lived out his polarities. What’s that, you might ask? Well, polarities are part of everything and everyone. Basically, they are opposite characteristics like i.e. inquisitive/dull, caring/judgmental, the Yin and the Yang of existence.  Right now it’s bloody cold here, in the summer unbearably hot and humid. The snow is melting, though still frozen a couple of feet high giving the appearance of death in nature and, yesterday, where the ice melted close to the house, I saw daffodils peeping through the ground. So with Buddy; he is incredibly intelligent and he could be so stupid at times; he has the capacity to make people proud of their State and bring national shame and embarrassment upon them.  He loves and can be dismissive in the cruelest ways – no, he does not have a multiple personality disorder, rather he is living out his polarities and learning about himself and life. There is a poem by e.e.cummings that best describes this process.

a total stranger one black day
knocked living the hell out of me-

who found forgiveness hard because
my (as it happened )self he was

-but now that fiend and I are such
immortal friends the other’s each

People who are multi-dimensional are never boring, mostly curious and alive, where as individuals who are fairly constant and predictable in their moods and behavior, are generally less interesting and one-dimensional.

In my therapy and coaching work with clients I am stimulated by each of these positions. A quiet person’s way of being is often expressed dulled to excitement and lives a same as always, unsatisfying life. We know from much research that without feelings and emotions existence can take on oppressive depression. Undertaking birthing one’s own polarities brings immense opportunities for creating a fuller, richer life. For the multi-dimensional individual, growth lies in a different direction. Often polarities express themselves fully in opposition and tend to constrict success so that the process of honoring the good and the bad becomes essential. Why the bad? Because if we are fully aware of that undesirable part of ourselves we can embrace it, use it if and when appropriate rather than trying to deny that undesirable part that will sabotage us no matter how we try to suppress it

Another possibility would be to synthesize both attributes. We can reason between the two what is useful and what is not and thus are able to give a measured response.

That we possess both positive and negative attributes is a given, how we live with them and what we do with them, is a choice. (An aside: while I certainly cannot speak for Buddy, I imagine and I realize that I am making a big assumption, that writing his memoirs has the effect of making peace with his polarities.) The above methodology of recognizing, accepting and/or synthesizing what we love and hate ourselves is enormously meaningful and applicable to all individuals with or without coaching or therapy.

In my work as coach these concepts take on particular meaning when working with recovered/ing individuals in my non-AA, alternative, and holistic Beyond-Recovery process that I am presently teaching for the Institute for Life Coach training and in my Gestalt Institute of Rhode Island.

In closing and as adjunct to cummings poem I want to mention the paradoxical Gestalt Theory of Change that: Change happens when you become who you truly are, not when you try to be what you are not.

How will you know if you are expressing polarities? EASY as pie. One  little word.
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I’d love to hear from you what you came up with. It really is fun!!!

Be well, curious and surprise yourself every day!

Western society dictates a “mission accomplished” point of view. In spite of poor recovery statistics, this sense of urgency remains stubbornly in the addiction/mental health treatment field, sometimes even when giving lip-service to available contemporary, more relevant treatment practices. Spending a moment experiencing and relishing a sense of a job well-done, taking time to savor one’s hard work and accomplishments – are highly undervalued in our society and practiced much too infrequently in the treatment field. The ramifications of such a let’s get this done now, get sober and stay that way attitude are enormously negative. They create and maintain fear, stress, and create discouragement that may well contribute to, and maintain the very addiction or mental health conditions, that the individual wants to alleviate.

Life is an ongoing process of living and changing; there is no permanent cure for pain and problems, and there is no Nirvana. Nevertheless, the individual desiring recovery can adjust to and reduce the frenzy inherent in treatment and in contemporary life on his very own. Below are some simple suggestions that can make life a little easier until the client feels whole and self-assured in full recovery.

Some simple suggestions to ease a stress-filled life:

1. Slow down long enough to stimulate courage and feel emerging excitement and interest in living beyond meeting dictated needs.
2. Experience a feeling of satisfaction - of self-discovery over completing a task successfully without submitting to someone else’s prescribed dictates for recovery and other life style changes.
3. Complete a day reflecting when deeply felt values and beliefs guided you to do something unexpected rather than attend a meeting to which you may not have related. This decision can take as little as a moment of I did it, taking a deep breath, or treating one’s self to a quiet moment of self-appreciation and peace.
4. Acknowledge satisfaction when sharing a self-initiated experience with a good friend, or experimenting with new activities even if initially self-conscious.
5. Savor a job well done, having been in a flow experience, losing track of time in the process.
6. Learn to count blessings – the awareness of discovering something novel – making someone smile, getting a wave of thanks from a motorist whom you gave permission to turn before you. It means simply recognizing pleasant small moments which would have been out of awareness earlier.
7. Evaluate how you co-created this pleasant moment. Accumulating these positive self-discoveries hold the additional promise of gaining self-worth and awareness of how a person can make many little steps that may lead eventually to accomplish larger individual goals – like full recovery.

Life becomes joyful when one recognizes the ability to co-create good moments. They make life worth while. After all, would anyone want to go through the rigors of recovering, were it not for the hope of a more satisfying existence?

The above is certainly not an outline for a treatment approach; yet it serves coaching very well. Chances are that a person in the process of recovery will be much more successful if he is introduced to himself, his strengths, vulnerabilities, and values that made it possible for him to courageously arrive at your office at this very moment willing to entrust himself to you, a dedicated, non-judgmental clinician who realizes that the client is always the authority and ultimately the change-agent in this dialogical, completely client-centered I-Thou process. All one needs is encouragement, compassion and belief in human nature imbued with a desire for self-actualization.

a total stranger one black day
knocked living the hell out of me-

who found forgiveness hard because
my(as it happened) self he was

-but now that fiend and I are such
immortal friends the other’s each     e.e. cummings

Perls, the founder of Gestalt Therapy, writes that addiction treatment phases must embrace all aspects of life for the individual to become who he wants to be and  “no cure can have lasting effect or be more than a suppression of impulses unless the alcoholic (‘adult’ suckling) progresses to the stage of biting and chewing” the unassimilated life experiences.

To this end, I have developed an MPTP approach for the treatment of addictions that is phasic, overlapping, and gender neutral. It is I/Thou relationship based, non-judgmental and stresses empowerment to transform one’s life in the desired direction. This treatment model initiates and honors awareness of “what is” in the personal, familial, and social realm. Abstinence of addictive-type behaviors is not dictated as they are considered attempts at maintaining contact with self/other/substance and as such are meaningful expressions of self-assertion. Rather, this approach exemplifies respect for the integrity of the individual and voluntary adherence to the treatment process and as such facilitates an emerging awareness of personal participation in creating destructive habits and self-defeating lifestyles and necessary emotional motivation to change. (Beisser (1970) writes that “change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to be what he is not”- the Gestalt paradoxical theory of change.

Freud recognized that the creation of defenses leading to the compulsion to repeat behaviors is an attempt to gain organismic equilibrium. When the “Self” cannot function and develop optimally, this fluid transformation of energy in the service of the individual is called a creative adjustment in Gestalt therapy, and emerges organically from the experience. Its continuation depends on environmental support and may eventually become rigidified, a habit, possibly leading into addictions. Freud called this organismic state “Seelenkrankheit”, literally translated, “soul sickness”. Adler, Horney later interpreted this concept “Seelenkrankheit” as an individual’s need to manipulate the environment to gain an illusion of control over others to maintain personal integrity and a sense of “Self” in the struggle for survival.  In this spirit, addiction becomes the means in the search for a “Self”.

I have suggested that many substance overusers suffer from stunted emotional development resulting from early deprivation, neglect and other traumas. Equally often, developmental stuckness occurs at a very early age accounting for unhelpful attitudes and behaviors so prevalent in addicted adolescents and adults. Whatever the reason, they have intimate knowledge, possibly unaware, of an existence filled with pain, rage, and an inability to self-care healthily. Drug taking becomes a welcome avenue to numb pain or bring about a sense of aliveness. Thus addictive practices provide an illusion of being in control of one’s life and managing chaos while actively participating in the creation of more chaos. I often hear statements such as “If only…  I could have one more binge, a better job, and a more understanding wife… then…. Or…when I have a certain income, when my back feels better, when I kill myself… then… in spite of their experiences to the contrary and the reality that these wished-for conditions are a lie.

The coach/therapist relationship has particular significance when in the presence of an addicted person struggling in the search to find his way.  (For ease of writing I shall use the pronoun “he” throughout; women are of course very much included.) Not only will the client feel like “one of them”, the addict,  against “us (me, Clinician)”- the I/it phenomenon, a perception many learned during previous treatment attempts, but he also feels dread given the hint of a possibility of a longed-for relationship with a caring other. This is frightening at best and a daunting commitment for both clinician/client. However, from the perspective of the MPTP with its sub-theme of “Addiction: In Search for a Self” the coach/therapist brings into the therapeutic encounter an attitude of I/Thou allowing for meeting the client without judgment of where and how he is and without pretense of having superior knowledge and the ability to “fix” him. This being “with” is not a technique, a method to be practiced on…but rather it emanates from authentic caring and a conviction of the worth and sanctity of each individual struggling in the process of finding his unique self. My encounter with S. exemplifies the awesome power inherent in this self-less therapeutic approach:

An Employee Assistant Program referred S. to me for addiction treatment evaluation.

This is his story:

He reports that he spent his youth in several foster homes having been abandoned by both his mother and father. He described some of these homes adequate but a third extremely brutal. He was beaten, sexually abused, starved, to keep him in line. Eventually, at the age of 14, he escaped and attempted to make it on his own. He did so with the help of daily, non-stop marijuana smoking. He became a bicycle repairman to earn some money. In addition to smoking pot non-stop, riding his bicycle kept him somewhat sane.  My being with him non-judgmentally and interested in his experiences, finding inherent strengths and connections in his story to find purpose in his 15-year substance overuse; not immediately proposing a treatment plan and to expect him to stop use of the illegal substance, so impacted him that he abruptly terminated after three sessions. Years later, I received a bouquet of roses with a long letter, stating among many things, that the three sessions literally saved and changed his life. He stopped, because my warm, positive attitude toward him was more than he could bear even though he always longed for that kind of understanding. Subsequently, he had entered other treatment programs always being keenly aware that something was deeply missing. He wanted to return for “a little” more therapy with me, to which I agreed. We slowly developed a mutually satisfying I/Thou relationship. Initially feeling like an “it” object, with loving therapeutic support and patience, he was eventually able to develop an “I” and a” we-us” and begin genuine healing. A year into the therapy, he disappeared again as quickly as he reappeared. This is his process and can be none other.

Multi-Phasic Transformation Awareness Statement. (MPTASÓ)

The MPTAS are elaborations on the awareness and growth continuum in an individual’s transformation process from pre-addicted existence, to an eventually confluent relationship with suffering and addictive life style to a lively existence with “Self” and others and the world. Therapy, a microcosmic laboratory for learning, raises individuals’ awareness to the “what” and the “how” of their process in their search for meaning and in finding the “ Self”. The awareness statements are summary statements of accomplished growth as it emerges organically out of the coaching/therapeutic process. I believe organically, because progression toward a healthier life style in relationship with others proceeds sequentially. Developmental lags are mediated and self-care/being cared-for eases early deprivation. This is always a uniquely individual process not a recipe-type prescription for health. Every individual requires different attention in differing degrees, at different times. That is the reason for the general tenor, even vagueness of the awareness statements/ summary statements. As such, they allow for the greatest variability in expressing individuals’ unique needs, wants and achievements.

I have been asked what the purpose of the statements is and what they add to the process. My immediate answer is “a lot”, addicted individuals truly enjoy working in this format because within it, they can envision and experience their own life process for change. I am always amazed with what ease and absence of shame and guilt clients are able to point out where their awareness necessitates deepening.  The choice to and how to continue is always with the client even though, most are learning for the first time the complexities inherent in the process of choosing). Certain MPTAS may require more time and effort; others can be accomplished with relative ease. There is also significant overlap. Coaching/therapy must begin where the client experiences earliest disruption in the client’s healthy development occurs. It is not a coach/therapist’s responsibility to get the person to where they want to be in life, but to be available in every possibly way to support his unfolding. This is in essence what Laura Perls’ basic belief expresses: “provide only enough support to enable the client to help himself”.

If you would like more information on the Multi-Phasic Transformation Process™, check out my ebook, Multi-Phasic Transformation Process.

Gestalt Theory states that “Change happens when one becomes who he really is, not when he tries to become what he is not” (Beisser, p. 77, 1970). This principle of change implies that in the process of maturation an individual introjects familial and societal attitudes and beliefs about himself that may eventually interfere with healthy organismic self-regulation. Messages (Gremlins) such as: “You’ll never amount to anything,” “You are just like your father,” “Girls don’t do that,” “You should be nice to your mother,” “You are so selfish,” “You shouldn’t be such a sissy,” “Don’t tell,” abound in difficult family or social systems and are believed and absorbed as truths by healthily egocentric children. The inherent potential for developing is often truncated and the capacity to realize one’s inherent strengths is diminished.

Children who internalize these parental messages often feel conflicted, unnatural, and bad as they are maturing. Eventually, self-alienation becomes the foreground and may be expressed in addictive behaviors and poor mental health during and after adolescence. They feel disconnected from their actions and statements such as the following abound: “That’s not like me.” “I can’t believe I did that.” “I don’t know where this was coming from?” “I’ll never amount to anything no matter what I try.” “I am not fit to live!” These unhealthy internalized beliefs are visibly supported and observed in a client’s posture, tone of voice, and unhelpful repetitive behaviors.

Therapist/Coaches provide clients the opportunity to explore experientially and question the validity of their belief systems and behaviors for their usefulness in the present context. With this process clients can experiment with new possibilities and discover opportunities to modify or replace parts, or all, of a given belief with a synthesized, more ego-syntonic alternative that can be assimilated and eventually integrated.

John had been told all his life that he was a lazy bum just like his father. When ready to graduate from high school, he wanted to take advantage of a job opportunity that started at 8 A.M. John didn’t want to get up that early and wanted different hours but was denied the request. Initially, with his usual “I want what I want and how and when I want it” attitude, he laughingly dismissed the job offer. His therapist/coach explored the wisdom of his polarized decision-making attitude and invited him to a two-chair experiment with the goal of exploring his contradictory attitudes. One position really wanted a good job, the other, the “but” side was afraid of failing, as he discovered. Working this process, John was able to say that he really wanted a job AND that he was afraid of failing – a very deep fear that he learned early and throughout his childhood. He said that he could still hear his drunken father yelling at him that he’ll never amount to anything in life and that he’ll become just like him (the father).

John took the first steps in undoing a long-standing personal belief by accepting the reality of the complex situation. Now he could begin to explore truth from fiction, use his inherent strengths of courage and perseverance and begin differentiating what belongs to him and what does not. He may succeed only partially, or get to like starting his day early, in either case, rigidified behavior changed. This experiment required creativity and skill in establishing the appropriate Yin and Yang and to proceed with sensitivity and focus, considering the usefulness and practicality of each. AND, cognition alone does not create change; rather awareness of what is and synthesizing beliefs and wants supported by a strong emotional charge, allows for change to occur.

Clinicians must have the patience to stay with a client’s process. It bears repeating that rather than to attempt to fix a client’s problems and symptoms, staying with the client by getting out of the way and allowing the process to unfold on its own, is ultimately more helpful. Professionals must be sufficiently tuned in to know when contextual confrontation or challenges are called for. They must have the skills and confidence to be intuitively creative and flexible when attempting any experiment including the huge experiment of addiction treatment (Zinker, 1977).

A Therapist/Coach gives only as much support as is necessary and only as much as the client truly wants. The individual must be afforded the opportunity to look deep inside to find the answers while the Therapist/Coach accompanies him on his journey to realize inherent potential in his own way and in his own time.

When I suggest to addiction trained and mental health professionals that there may be more for a sober client to attain in life than sobriety through the successful completion of the 12-step program in AA, I receive various responses:

1. Looks of incomprehension;
2. Questioning of my expertise and credentials in the addiction field;
3. “You are full of it”;
4. Tell us, please, we are tired of the same old; we have been sober for years and are still compelled to attend AA because we fear relapse if we don’t.

These responses are completely understandable. Personally, since 1981, I have worked long hours in the field of addictions. I developed addiction treatment programs, taught in many countries, and published. I cried with my clients, celebrated their hard-won successes, understood the obvious reasons for having developed addictive life styles, empathized, failed and learned continuously (still am), treated trauma with EMDR and struggled with health insurances. Yes, I know about the addiction field, the patients, and treatment approaches.

Please, hear me: The reality is that AA 12-step programs, other self-help groups, and/or religious affiliations have helped and saved many individuals from death; one cannot argue with these statistics. Others gain periodic sobriety and become caught up in relapse cycles; more are white-knuckling sobriety even while attempting to work the rigorous AA 12-step program but stay stuck; still others are developing cross addictions or, just never stop using. A patient once told me that he is addicted to AA. Addictions are considered an illness and treated as such by therapists, medications etc. The addict is the patient seeking HELP, professionals have the knowledge to help and if the client follows recommendations, he will recover. This is as it should be when treating an illness. However, even when recovery is successful, the client is admonished that “once an addict, always an addict”.

So what have I learned from my clients and what do I mean when I assert that the recovering person can attain a fuller life with life coaching than in recovery alone? That is a fair question and I am eager to share the good news.

What is Life Coaching for the Addiction-recovered Client?

Briefly, what I have learned over many years and other Life Coaches may assume that the sober client has gained a measure of personal and social stability; he is creative, resourceful, and competent. The life coach’s mission is to assist the client toward a satisfying, fuller life, forward moving toward authentic joy and happiness as defined by the client. They have proven that the “whole is greater than the sum of its parts”, meaning, they no longer must be labeled by their bad habits from the past. Recovery Coaches will recognize that the recovered client may still have lingering shadows from the past AND are aware that he has enormous strengths to put these shadows in a healthy perspective with determination, perseverance, courage, and hope. Without these attributes, they could not be where they are today. So where to go next to become more of what one already is?

Life Coaching may be the ideal “next step”. Each individual holds more potential, has more desires, and acknowledged (or not) wants, and needs, if given the opportunity to voice them to someone who truly hears without judgment, foregone conclusions, and the intention to “fix” it. Recovery Coaches are completely client oriented, and assist creating goals that have sound intentions and purpose for the life the client designs. The client will become gradually aware of differences as he lives the coaching process from the “inside out”. Minimally, the client will learn life skills so that he can make more choice-full and rewarding decisions in the future and reducing the engrained fear of relapse. Premier researcher and expert George E. Vaillant (1983), echoes Jellinek’s (1960) that addiction is still not understood and that the magic ingredient to keep the recovering individual in recovery has not yet been identified. Recovery Coaching may just provide that magic.

In summary, clients who have opted for life coaching are ultimately best qualified to comment on the good life they have created beyond sobriety and how pursuing and making meaningful choices have resulted in living a life of their dreams that is real, meaningful, and authentic.

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[1]Vaillant, George E (1995) The Natural History of Alcoholism Revisited.[1] In this text, Dr. Vaillant offers various views on the perplexities of addiction, relapse, prevention, and treatment, given credence to both sides of the argument. Jellinek, E. M. (1960) The Disease concept of Alcoholism. In this books Foreword, Dr. Jellinek voiced discomfort with the concept of Alcoholism as a Disease and considers it a concept just as disease is a concept. He uses the word ‘disease’ reluctantly and under pressure of the Publisher.

Jellinek, E. M. (1960) The Disease concept of Alcoholism. In this books Foreword, Dr. Jellinek voiced discomfort with the concept of Alcoholism as a Disease and considers it a concept just as disease is a concept. He uses the word ‘disease’ reluctantly and under pressure of the Publisher.

Ever since the profession of coaching has entered the arena of mental health services, the topic regarding which profession is better suited to assist which individuals – coaching or therapy continues. Each branch provides evidence in support for their efficacy and pros and cons have become a much debated topic among the various healthcare professionals. The following paragraphs offer a brief expose’ of salient points for each.

The Coaching profession is the new kid on the block. While coaching as such has been around for awhile in the area of sports and performance, offering coaching to the public as a possibility to improve life is a relatively recent development. Coaches consider it essential that the potential client to fulfill the prerequisite that he is creative, competent, resourceful, and whole.  The purpose of coaching is to assist the individual in evaluating and creating a life he really wants according to personal values and potential, and aspirations. The coach-client relationship is one of equality and the client is believed to know best what needs to change and how. A coach assists and supports the client on this path by reflecting, offering feedback, asking questions, is sometimes challenging, and with permission offers possibilities. Homework assignments are also part of this process. The coaching profession encourages its professionals to develop specialization in various areas to better serve a broader range of services. While professional certification for coaches is encouraged, i.e. ICF, it is not required nor is in-depth knowledge of human development. Anyone hang out a shingle claiming to be a coach.

Unlike coaching, therapy has been around for a very long time. Ever since Papa Freud introduced the possibility that emotional suffering can be explored and alleviated with the “talking cure”, the focus was and remained on exploring “what is wrong”. Over time, new developmental theories flourished, as did research (assumptions) and methods to best effect “healing” human suffering. While the roots of psycho-therapy lay in the 18^th century, the focus and practice in the 21^st century is considered to have grown up, so to speak; it  is today hardly recognizable for what it once was. In Freud’s original writings, he considered suffering a matter of the soul, and termed mental illness Seelenkrankheit (soul sickness). Today, however, findings in neurosciences have contributed largely to the change of therapeutic focus and practice. Current therapies generally reflect the values of society that the mind – thinking over doing – being – matters. While there is certainly validity in this research and practice, the humanistic practice of earlier years i.e. Rogers etc. has fallen by the wayside.  Moving away from integration and Holism to fragmenting the whole person into constituent parts and treating separately i.e. body, mind, spirit, behavior, other etc. hoping to effect the whole, has been considered by many to have taken the “soul” out of therapy. The therapist has become the expert and the client is assumed to follow the expert’s advice.

Therapists are State licensed and supported by health insurances that restrict therapeutic application based on the provider’s diagnosis. One can safely claim that today the insurance companies know best, not the therapist or client.

To summarize, coaching works in the here and now toward the future, therapy concentrates on healing or lessening the pain of past or present ills.

Yet, as clear as the above sounds, the determination which service to choose requires careful consideration and frank client/professional consideration to find the best approach to accommodate the client’s needs and wants. Here is an example:

Tom approached me for therapy hoping I could put an end to his misery. He was a soft-spoken, deeply troubled single man, in his late thirties who was sober continuously for eight years after sixteen-years of cocaine/crack and ‘you name it’ addiction. He worked AA’s rigorous 12- step program, very quickly became labeled a ‘Saint’, a role model, and was in great demand as sponsor. He simultaneously spent ‘years’ in therapy to resolve extreme abuse issues from various family members. Once in the process of gaining sobriety, he began and graduated college, interned at a large international firm and within a short time became a top-level executive. “None” was his description of strengths. “If I had any, I would not be an addict.” Yet he remained extremely depressed; still he wanted to figure out what he was really all about and what was missing because he thought that he already had everything – sobriety, money, and was still unhappy.  In addition, he wanted to stop feeling responsible for living the lives of others.  He couldn’t imagine how his life would be different if he would wake up one day and have the life he wanted because he lived one day at a time and hated it.  He hoped that things would change before he relapsed into self-destructive behavior once more (Tom had stopped attending AA several years ago).

As a Gestalt therapist and Gestalt Coach who has worked for many years with the addicted/recovered population, I was struck by his defeated attitude and posture without any awareness of his strengths demonstrating resilience, creativity, and perseverance. After exploring both therapy and coaching as a possibility to proceed, he enthusiastically (good sign) chose coaching because he was tired of “the same old, same old, been there, done that”. He agreed to see a therapist in case coaching would be insufficient.

Gestalt Theory and methodology differ greatly from the above coaching and therapy descriptions. Gestalt Therapy is a model for health. Erving Polster, the Premier Gestaltist of our times, has insisted for years that Gestalt is too good to be used only for the sick. Extremely, abbreviated, emphasis is on the Here and Now, with a holistic focus on the individual in the context of the environment creatively and interdependently cocreating experience each moment of life. Questions are posed in terms of What and How of experience and awareness of self/other is facilitated by the prudent use of experiments in the context of the paradoxical Gestalt theory of Change.

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